The topic of in home care can be a sensitive topic, and it’s not abnormal to be met with some level of resistance. Understanding the source of this reaction can help you have an informed and empathetic discussion to facilitate a positive transition for a family member or friend. Fear of the unknown is one of the most common triggers for seniors. More often than not, they have been living on their own for decades, and are very set in their ways. Perhaps having someone in their home might threaten their sense of routine and privacy. Do not be surprised if their initial knee-jerk reaction to in home care is negative. Let’s take a look at some of the most common concerns we might encounter...
Your loved one may feel in-home care would rob them of their freedom and independence. As we know, nothing could be further than the truth. In home care can allow our aging loved ones to remain in the comfort of their own home, while providing life-enhancing support and companionship. Even when people need help, it’s often very difficult to accept it. This is something we all can relate to. They may be concerned about causing a financial burden, or taking time away from their family’s busy schedule to interview and arrange for a caregiver. Until the logistics are explained, they will likely have many questions and concerns.
Your loved one may also come to false conclusions as to why you want them to have in home care. No one wants to be seen as incompetent or incapable, and it is important to keep this in mind when you speak to them. Being empathetic towards their fears can help you avoid frightening or offending them. You don’t want them to fall under the false assumption that you are “passing them off” to another person. Help them understand that a caregiver would merely be supplementing your involvement in their life, and not replacing it.
Accept the fact that your loved one may have pre-existing beliefs about in home care. Be sure to listen, and hear all of their concerns. When you take the time to listen to a person's fears about a situation, you will be better equipped to help them overcome mental and emotional obstacles. It’s possible they may know someone who had a bad experience, perhaps a friend who didn’t get along with their caregiver. Assure them that knowledge of a bad experience will only help your family create stronger interview criteria for potential candidates.
You don’t have to do this alone...you found us! PAN has over 30 years experience helping Philadelphia-area families make this transition, and we can assist you in every the step of the way. PAN provides services so uniquely personalized that our clients often think of us as “Daughters for Hire.” Our involvement is boundless, and we can walk you through the process to address your specific concerns, pinpoint your unique needs, and then help you to select a caregiver. Our caring staff members serve as medically trained professionals, and loving, surrogate family members improving the quality life for families all over Philadelphia.